Does My Loved One Have Borderline Disorder? | Black Sheep Project


Does My Loved One Have Borderline Disorder?


Welcome to the Black Sheep Project. We are a community for everyone affected by Borderline Disorder*, working to dramatically increase awareness, erase stigmas and connect each other with effective clinical practices, research and advocates. Borderline Disorder stems from disturbances in brain pathways that regulate emotion and impulse control, affecting different people in different ways. Borderline Disorder is a real medical disorder defined by a pattern of impulsivity and instability in interpersonal relationships and self-image.


* Within this website, we refer to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) as Borderline Disorder (BD) in an effort to reduce the stigma of the current disorder label.


Borderline Disorder is complex, and understanding how it may affect your loved one can begin to help you know which resources will be most helpful.

The purpose of this simple quiz is not to provide you with a diagnosis of your loved one (only a trained clinical professional can do that), but to give you a sense of how the dimensions of Borderline Disorder may be affecting their life.

The assessment takes most people 2-4 minutes to complete. Once completed, you’ll see how your responses fit with the criteria many clinical professionals use to discuss Borderline Disorder.

After you have taken the quiz, we recommend that you explore the We Got This section of the website to find in depth information on the disorder, inspirational stories and further resources.

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Here are some of the resources the Black Sheep Project has selected that you may be interested in. Visit the Black Sheep Project’s online store for more books and for the complete line of Black Sheep Project’s branded gear. All sales go to support growing awareness, erasing stigmas, and funding research and teaching.

Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder

By Paul Mason, MS and Randi Kreger

Stop Walking on Eggshells helps those with family members affected by Borderline Disorder to understand the Disorder’s affects, its dangerous behaviors, to learn to set boundaries and to help their loved one move beyond their Borderline Disorder-related behaviors. Updated with the latest research, topics covered include: how to make sense of the chaos and isolation you feel, how to assert your needs and stand up for yourself, and how to handle conflicts and protect yourself and others from violent behaviors. This important how-to guide will help you make important life decisions about how to manage your relationships and create a life that is controlled by the decisions you make, not by the Disorder. You will learn valuable skills and create a foundation for hope in this useful, compassionate, guidebook.

Sometimes I Act Crazy: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder

By Jerold J. Kreisman, M.D. and Hal Straus

Written for those who suffer from Borderline Disorder, or those who are in relationship with them, this book offers guidance and advice to help you build better relationships, regulate your mood swings and gain greater self-esteem, focusing on how to control harmful impulses, find professional help and choose a treatment path that is compatible for you. This book discusses specific narrative descriptions of specific behaviors and coping strategies to deal with those behaviors. 

The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells

By Randi Kreger

This nurturing and important book proves invaluable for those suffering from Borderline Disorder and those affected by its impacts. Free of blame and grounded in the latest research, Kreger presents real tools for families and readers to use as they understand and problem-solve around the complexities of Borderline Disorder. The book focuses on helping you learn specific skills and focus on what  needs to be done to move away from the cycle of emotional swings, how to take good care of yourself, getting to the bottom of what keeps you feeling stuck, communicating so you are heard, setting limits with love, and reinforcing correct behaviors. All of these steps are designed to help you improve relationships, lessen stress and create the basis for real hope and change. This book brings real understanding and optimism to a complex and often misunderstood Disorder.